JHP Episode 3: How to get others on board with your Expectations

Updated: Oct 17

If you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe.. and listen to todays episode to find out who won the MDesign giveaway!



How did I get my husband on board with my goals of a clean home, healthy life, minimalistic lifestyle and more?


& in all honesty how the hell did he get me on board with communication?


 

Alexander (My husband) grew up in a home that communicated openly about EVERYTHING, which was quite the opposite from the silent treatments I was accustomed to. So when our worlds collided.. we had a bunch to figure out. It wasn't any easy ride, I cried... a lot. But looking back now, I'm so incredibly proud of myself and how far I've come communication wise (I mean look at me.. I'm hosting a podcast about it!). But better yet, Alexander is also improving on his end which is so cool to witness.


I'm not saying we are perfect, we are FAR FROM IT. Honestly, as I sit down to write this article I had to walk back in to my living room and apologize for my salty attitude.. but the main thing is we are finally on the same team and I'm no longer defending my position. A lot of breathing when I'm feeling overwhelmed, reminding myself that he loves me, and trying to not let a small mishap ruin my entire day.. which is hard y'all!


To make things easy I broke down the steps below for you to follow... but first to really think about. Where do you and your other person succeed in these steps? Where does improvement need to be made? Are you on the same page with your goals and values?


It's hard to move forward when you don't know where you're going.


Here is a breakdown on how to create a habit (together):

  1. Sit down and have a conversation about YOUR GOALS. Figure out a way that these can align with BOTH OF YOUR VALUES. If you want a cleaner house, how can you make this a desirable goal for your significant other as well?

  2. Write down your goals so that you can truly put the into action. We use a life goal chart that I have up on my website and it’s been life changing.

  3. Break down that BIG GOAL into TINY HABITS that you can work on one at a time.

  4. Hold each other accountable until this becomes a HABIT (*side note, what’s a habit?)

  5. Be patient and respectful: Do you want to work on a habit when your other person is constantly picking at you for your failures? No! So make sure you are respectful, encouraging, and loving!


Habits that WE have created:



- Alexander picks up his dirty socks

- Jessica spends more time with other people (friends & family) because this is important for Alexanders mental health.

- Alexander empties the dishwasher, sorts laundry, and makes the bed

- Jessica unplugs from her phone an hour before bed.

- We both workout together everyday.

- We both struggle at making a nighttime routine.

- We both are working on our sex life.


We aren't perfect. I'm not saying this process is easy and that if you know it you'll succeed. But I am saying that this is the EXACT process that we used to create the habits, respect, and communication that we have and we are so proud of ourselves.


Always, Jess

————————————————————————

L E T ' S B E F R I E N D S !

W E B S I T E | T I K T O K | I N S T A G R A M | Y O U T U B E


Hi Friends! I'm Jessica Haizman. I'm 28 years old and married to my best friend. We spend 98% of our time together, and no we don't spend it all cleaning and organizing. I have a daughter, Adalynn and an Australian Shepherd, Bali and they get the majority of my attention.

I have created efficient systems in all areas of our home, our phone, our careers, and our lives- and I have made it my mission to share these tips with anyone and everyone that will listen.

Why? Because these systems make my life SO MUCH EASIER and SAVE ME SO MUCH TIME. These systems keep my home clean, bring joy and calmness into my life, and allow me to spend less time picking up clutter and more time living life- I want that for you too.

The goal is to help, whether its a quick tip or life hack that I share to Tiktok or a day in the life on my social networks @jessicahaizman, a printable chart that helps me stay organized or my all-time favorite apps, an intensive course answering all the FAQ's or working 1:1 with clients to create healthy habits- these resources are all available to you!

Some things you will stumble upon are how I use non-toxic natural cleaners, have made the change to no-waste by switching to reusable towels instead of paper or glass storage containers instead of ziplocks. You will also find lots of DIY recipes and how to use common household ingredients like baking soda, white vinegar and hot water to tackle some of your toughest messes. You'll learn about my favorite cleaning supplies and cleaning products including all purpose cleaners, glass cleaners, stain removers and more.

Having a clean home drastically affects your physical and mental health, so jump on board and learn all the tips I have to share! Take the time to explore my website and interact with me on social media. I'm so excited to see how organization and a new approach on cleaning the home will change your life and leave you full of joy!