top of page

lets be friends

  • Instagram
  • Facebook
  • YouTube
  • TikTok

I Turned Down My Husband for 4 years

Updated: Aug 14, 2023

I repeat: I turned down my husband for 4 years before even giving him a chance! What a rough start to a beautiful love story. ->

Way back in high school, we knew each other through mutual friends, and to be honest, I was not the least bit interested in Alexander. He was immature (aren't all 18-year-olds?) and had this terrible haircut that I will never be able to erase from my memory.

Although it wasn't love at first sight, a friendship did spark.

We remained distant friends for years while chasing our own dreams and maturing in our own ways.

Alexander matured, and yes, he also cut his hair (both much needed).

In the summer of 2016, a slow start led to our true feelings spilling out as we started dating. I still remember sitting on the couch next to him and when I looked into his eyes, I was filled with so much love. I can't even find the words to describe it. I knew at that moment that this was more than a friendship. But looking back, I wouldn't have changed a thing.

Being friends allowed us both to grow and be better people while gaining trust with one another. Being friends allowed us to smile and laugh and goof around like best friends do.

The second we started dating, none of that changed. We remained the very best of friends- together every waking moment. Looking back, it's hard to remember who said "I love you" first because we both did. We filled our lives with adventure, activity, family, friends, and most of all each other. We constantly pushed ourselves and each other to grow and become better in any way possible. (including physical activity) So it wasn't a shock that Alexander wanted to travel to Colorado to tackle outdoor rock climbing.

However, it was a shock when Alexander got down on his knee and asked me to marry him. Ok, to be more real... it was a shock that it ACTUALLY happened but I did know that he was planning a proposal and starting to look at rings. But let me tell you, nothing can prepare you for the emotions- all the emotions!!

Yes, I said no to a date with a man for 4 years that I ended up marrying. He refers to this as the "long game", while as much as we joke-

I know it all happened for a reason and the two people that fell in love were totally different people then when we had just met.

Let this be a reminder that love stories are not perfect in the slightest. They are raw and true and in every way beautiful.

To hear more of our love story, listen to this podcast!

Always, Jess


L E T ' S B E F R I E N D S!


bottom of page